Couples Therapy

I specialize in helping couples improve their connection and communication.  Here are some common questions people have about my relationship therapy services. I hope this is helpful in assessing whether my services may be a good fit for your needs.

Rates

My rates are $200 for 50 minutes, $300 for an 80 minute appointment, and $400 for an 110 minute appointment.  I usually suggest we start with 80-110 minutes to be able to do a full intake but I am also open to discussing a shorter consultation appointment if that is not within your time or financial means. 

Frequency
At the end of our first consultation session, if we decide to work together, I might suggest that I schedule an individual session with each of you so that I can better understand your individual needs and be sensitive your personal history. Typically after the solo sessions (or immediately, if we decide solo sessions are not needed), we typically all three meet together for future sessions.  I prefer that we meet weekly for the first 2-3 months or start with more intensive (longer) appointments in order to move into the core issues that need to be addressed to help facilitate change. 
 
Duration
As in deciding frequency, together we would decide on what length of therapy is right for you, with each of you as the ultimate guide for what is the right amount to meet your relationships goals. If there is not a long history of hurt or betrayal, I find that after eight to twelve joint sessions, many couples feel they have more skills and a better understanding of difficult patterns in their relationship (as well strategies for how to deal with those patterns).  When there are more complicated relationship dynamics or deeper injuries that need healing, some couples stay in therapy for much longer.  Again, this is a choice we would explore together and that you determine what is best for you.
 
Style of Therapy
In my practice, I use a variety of evidence-based therapy methods in my work with couples, such as: Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT), Gottman Method™ Couples Therapy, as well as Mindfulness techniques to help clients regulate physiology during periods of intense emotion or conflict. The primary philosophical foundation that I use is Bob and Rita Resnick’s Model of Coupling partnered with a phenomenological framework.  The largest challenge most couples face is "dealing with difference", in particular engaging with their partner's different worldview and different ways of being. As part of the Gottman Method and the EFT treatment models, I video record all of my sessions to improve my skills and to help me provide you with better therapy. If recording is a concern, please address this before scheduling.  If you have any questions about my methodology or how I work, I welcome your email or call.

 

Typical issues that couples counseling can help you with:

  • Poor communication that leads to escalated conflict, avoidance, or both

  • Aloneness, isolation within the relationship

  • Unresolved conflict

  • Having a passionless relationship

  • Infidelity

  • Anger

  • Conflict about child-rearing

  • Conflict about sex or sexuality

  • Blended families

  • Premarital or preventative couples counseling. This is for newer couples who are devoted to each other and wish to either stop bad habits before they cause damage and/or learn skills to deal well with differences and the ups and downs of long term commitment

What couples typically achieve in couples counseling:

  • The delicate art of balancing your needs for autonomy and connection

  • Improved communication - feeling heard, understood, and staying close

  • When feeling hurt, the refractory period shortens, meaning less time fighting and more time being friends 

Resources I find useful when working with couples:

Video highlighting some of the skills you will learn in counseling:

 

 

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